Jan
19
The role of the father in the family has undergone many changes over time. Many of these changes can be attributed to different types of families and their life habits, and how the family is integrated into society. A significant number of mothers are returning earlier to work after giving birth, in most cases because of the need to earn money for family maintenance. For this reason, in many families, the father gets a more significant role in children’s lives. The mother felts also this change and she must bring a balance in sharing family tasks.
The benefits of involving the father in the family are clear and extensively studied. The achievements of children in schools may be affected by a strained relationship between the child and his father. The father is influencing the child and in choosing a future career, a lifestyle, hair style with short haircuts and the idea of family, in most cases, the children identifying at adulthood with the lifestyle of their parents. Therefore, the father is influencing directly the family life and consequently the children’s live through its behavior, the time spent solving the problems of family and through the involvement in daily activities of the children.
Some studies show that men face a number of problems in their attempt to fully assume the role of father. Men are raised in the spirit of independence, of work on their own to get money to live and do not gain from birth the ability to raise a child. Also, some men are marked by the conflicts occurred during adolescence, between them and their own fathers, when, due to the development of the independent spirit, most often boys and their fathers come to disputes and controversies of ideas. Mothers, in turn, gain from birth the skills and emotional preparation necessary to raise a child. Therefore, they must be patient and understanding with fathers who are trying to assume the role of parent but not always live up to the expectations of others. It is very important that mothers be willing to share their experience in terms of raising the child and to encourage men to take responsibility of caring for children, apart from winning the money for the good of the family.
In addition, it is very important for both parents to realize that each one has his role in raising the children and never one of them can fully take the place of another. Yet there are things that the father can learn to do with his children, as there are many places to visit like doctors and extracurricular activities that mothers usually handle. The love between parents and the perseverance in solving the everyday problems are very important elements in the equation to ensure a climate of peace and understanding in family. As given by nature that only a male-female couple can procreate naturally, and parenting roles must be undertaken together both by the father and by the mother. The important thing is that both the father and the mother give all their best for their children and to assume fully the role of parents.
